If your spouse had walked out of the door after a nasty quarrel, promising never to return but you discover that you still love your partner very much, do not despair. As long as you are still in love with your spouse and is committed to save your marriage, all you have to do now is to take the necessary action to win your spouse back. The same rules apply regardless of whether you have broken up a few days, a few weeks or even months ago. To save marriage, you will have to let go of your pride.

Before you approach your spouse to apologize, you will need to have a proper plan in place first. You have to analyze what had really gone wrong in your relationship and how you have contributed to the strain. This is not the time to be blaming each other for the fight. You have to take the opportunity now to find out what had gone wrong and how to apologize to show that you are sincere and really want to make things right again. It takes two hands to clap; just like it requires both of you to make the marriage work or to break your relationship. If you truly want to save your marriage, then you will have to take your share of the blame and let your spouse know that you are sincere.

As mentioned earlier, before you apologize to your spouse, you have to know what you hope to achieve with this apology. You must make sure that your apology includes an explanation of why you’re sorry and also to describe your plan of how you will ensure that it will not happen again. You cannot apologize and then make the same mistake again! You have to ensure that when you apologize, you have to be sincere about it and ensure your spouse that you will not repeat it. Once you get these two messages across to your spouse, your relationship will very likely be patched up easily and you can save your marriage.

You might be wondering why you have to explain to your spouse why you are sorry about the conflict. Isn’t it enough to just apologize? If you are able to explain, it shows your wife or husband that you have actually taken time to sit down and carefully think through the whole conflict and why your spouse had been frustrated with your behaviour. This also shows your spouse that you are mature enough to take responsibility for your errors. It will work wonder especially if you have never taken this step before!

On the other hand, if you find that you have difficulty figuring out the problem by yourself, you might need to seek the help of a marriage counselor. A professional will be able to look at things from the viewpoint of your spouse which you might have overlooked. Nevertheless, that does not mean that you simply give in to everything that your spouse says from now onwards in order to save your marriage! What it means is that you can have a third party gives you their opinion of where you might have gone wrong and will help you to change your ways if necessary. at the same time, if they feel that you have done nothing wrong, they might request that you invite your spouse for a marriage counseling session so that both of you can work out things together with the assistance of the marriage counselor.  

As for the second part of your plan in getting your spouse back, you should explain to your wife or husband your well thought out plan of how you intend to prevent such behaviours from happening again so that both of you will not get into a conflict again. This is an important step because it will show your spouse that you are sincere in wanting to save the marriage. If you have marriage counselor present when you are presenting your plan, it will even be in your favour as it is a good indication of your sincerity and there will be higher hopes for a second chance at saving your marriage.

On a final note, keep in mind that you have to be honest and sincere when you are trying to get back together with your spouse. Your attempt at stopping your divorce and saving your marriage is not impossible but you have to work at it.

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